She Even Helps With School!

I’m in the final week of regular classes, papers are due, group assignments are frantically being thrown together, and the threat of exam stress is looming, and I’m really not that worried. Maybe I should be, and probably will be when each test gets closer, but for now I’m just enjoying being engaged, with my biggest worry being how hard it is to be away from my fiancé. When she did come and visit, although we did distract each other in our own little gushy love world, I actually accomplished a lot!

She had her final report project to do as well, albeit with a little more riding on it, it needed to be prefect just to satisfy her, and to make sure she graduates! I’m happy to report that she passed with flying colours on her work sample, she even let me help her by sifting through the many tests and assignments that her students did over the unit that she taught. Boy was that a lot of work, and I didn’t even get involved until the very end, I have a new found appreciation for teachers and the work they do now that I’m going to marry one!

I had an accounting mid term that week that I HAD to do well on, as the first one was a bit of a surprise. Seen as I am in the business program, I really should be more comfortable with accounting, but thus far it has been one of my most stressful classes. I have nothing against the professor, which can be an easy path of blame when college students aren’t quite catching the course material, it’s just tricky to get the format down when there’s no one holding your hand.

Being that Courtney has been a student in post secondary education for 7 years, one of the many things she is amazing at is knowing how to buckle down and study! We spent the day prior to my exam working on our perspective projects, going for about 40 minutes at a time before taking some kind of break. It worked wonderfully, and I couldn’t be happier studying with my beautiful future wife beside me! It was a fun flash into the future imagining that this same situation could be happening when we are finally married. Her stress ball of a husband will be panic studying, and she will keep me calm and provide the best of study breaks, snuggles!

The final result? Class average was 59%, and I nailed a respectful 82%. I couldn’t have done it without my gorgeous study buddy, she can help me with school any time!


Eloping, Still Joking..Right?

I’m on a post a day until Sunday to make the final blog post requirement for this assignment, so you all will be subjected to whatever random loosely related topics I can come up with until then! This one I owe to my fiancé though, my creative juices were running dry for the evening after a long day at work, and hey, it’s my blog, so why not! We’ve talked about it enough, so why not mention eloping here!

We haven’t been able to track down the very first time we joked about eloping, although we know it certainly was very early in our relationship. I can’t quite place if it was joked about in person or over a text message, the latter being the a pretty likely place if any as that was an easy form of communication between countries. Court sifted through a good number of our messages to try and find where it all started(there’s a lot to go through), she found some good stuff we could think back on and laugh about in the process.

Looking back that far it feels like it was so long ago, because we hardly knew each other at the time. Now I feel like there hasn’t been a time where I haven’t known Courtney, and I can’t imagine any version of my life where she isn’t woven through every fibre. It probably feels like such a far away place because we have gone leaps and bounds as far as relationships go, you know, getting engaged to be married and all. In most cultures, that’s what the call a “big deal”.

The jokes about eloping really started the idea roaming around in my head. At first I think it was an innocent joke, but with a closer look, I’m starting to think it was my subconscious doing some probing before I even knew that that was what I wanted! The frequency of the joke started to increase as time went on, even throwing it at both sets of parents to try and get a rise out of them, and maybe even preparing them for when we got really serious and talked about getting married.

With the introduction of engagement and wedding planning, eloping has seemed like a very real possibility! Just when we think we can’t do it, (not just the planning part) when we can’t stand to be apart any longer, eloping seems like a very rational idea. I told Courtney tonight that with just being paid today, I thought I could get us each a one way ticket to Thailand for our elopement, and we would be stuck there until I could scrounge up enough money to make our way back! That would allow enough time to pass for our families to cool off a bit, hah!

We’ve done the whole 8 months of our relationship long distance in one form or another, so to quit now would be pretty impressive. We won’t do that though, we are going to stick it out, we can definitely make it to our special day. All the planning and waiting will be well worth the wait, but that certainly won’t stop us from joking about eloping just like we did about getting married, they just go hand in hand. Being that this is a wedding planning blog, it would be an interesting turn of events if we really did elope, but don’t worry, we won’t do it! (at least today…)

Registering for Gifts and Such!

One of the adventures that I was able to experience with my Courtney was registering for wedding gifts. I had seen such things on friends wedding announcements, I just thought it was a a strange declaration to tell the world those two things together. “Hey we are getting married! We are also registered at Bed Bath and Beyond!” Apparently this is a common thing these days, and it was actually pretty fun! Registering is something I would have no clue how to do on my own, but thankfully with the help of my fiancé and the staff at the prior mentioned store, it was easy!

When we first entered the store, I couldn’t help but think about Adam Sandler’s movie “Click” and his powerful universal remote. I was tempted to ask about the beyond section, but being that shopping is my kryptonite I figured the less time spent in there the better. The lady was very helpful, there is a side area once you enter the store that is dedicated to wedding registries, complete with cozy chairs, complementary water bottles, and displays of nice dishes(I suppose they are china…I don’t really know the difference!).

We went to two stores, one in her home town and mine, over her visit, and all the employees that helped us had the same kind of direction to give us, showing some good all around training. They offered to help, even guide us around the store telling us all the details about various products, which we took the first lady up on as we felt a little overwhelmed! I never thought I could learn so much about non-stick cooking ware, she educated us like a champ!

After a little more help we felt brave enough to strike out on our own, wielding the scanner like a laser tag gun(at least when I got to hold it). I would like to compare my experience with registering like the first time I went on a cruise ship. Any of you who have been on one knows just how much food is available, and how if you are undecided on two different entrées, they just bring you both! You start the cruise being very polite, only eating as much as you need, but by the end, you are ordering a couple appetizers, two entrées, and just as many or more desserts. Registering started out much the same, with me constantly thinking how expensive something was, or how we could do without.

It took some training, but my fiancé finally convinced me that we weren’t the ones buying these things, they were really just gift ideas that were really easy to find for those attending our wedding! Once that was firmly set in my mind, I had no problem scanning all the things it takes to start a home, and there was way more than I thought there was. I am so grateful for both of our parents going to all the trouble to have these receptions for us so we can even receive some help to start off, I don’t think we could do it otherwise!

Overall it was a really good experience, and was a fun date! We found out we liked a lot of the same appliances, bed linens, towels, and all kinds of things that were far from my mind. Registering is a great way to give some pointed suggestions to those attending, that way you don’t receive too many of the same gift, and you get a good idea of what kinds of things you need to have to start out before you get married and learn how to live together! In the end, I think I could get used to registering, it’s not quite kryptonite for me, I had some wonderful backup from Court and Bed, Bath and Beyond!

An Interesting Exercise

The same class and reason I started this blog put me through my literary paces again this past week, and I learned a thing or two, fancy that! Of course I had to involve the recent events that consume all of my idle and active thoughts in class, so my fiancé came to mind when my “Coach” (our professor encourages us to call him that) told us at the beginning of class to just start writing about something positive.

The initial instructions he gave us were fairly vague, as he does most times, surely on purpose as to not snuff out our creativity. Coach informed us that we were to be writing a letter, like a real letter you would put in the actual mail box, to a dear friend to share this positive thing with. This wasn’t to be graded, but that was all the information he gave us, and so I started to write about how I had met this wonderful girl and how I became engaged to her.

My thoughts weren’t the most organized as I put them down, trying to imagine which dear friend I would share the news with that somehow had been trapped under a rock that didn’t have access to Facebook. I was a cut a bit short so our professor could move on to the next part of the exercise, so I wrapped my thoughts up mostly skipping the gushy romance part, assuming my technologically orphaned and fictional friend was a male I’m guessing.

The next task was to write on the exact same topic, but to someone who was at least a generation older and as close as family, like a grandparent. I chose my grandmother to write to, and immediately I noticed my writing style changed. Knowing that she is very proper with her grammar and spelling, my “letter” magically had much more structure and I found myself using some proper sentences! I do think this was also aided by it being the second time I could write about this event, but I did leave out certain details that I assumed my grandma already knew as the family grape vine moves juicy information along rather quickly. I also found myself drawing parallels to how I wanted to follow her and my grandpa’s example in seeing how much they cared for one another, and wanting that for Courtney and I.

The final part of the exercise was to again write on the same thing, but to a perspective boss. Coach explained that this wasn’t an unheard of task for a job application, as he had knowledge of an employer that would have hopeful employees write on the spot on various topics to determine if they would be hired, even if the job didn’t require those exact skills. I kept this letter less sappy,(as much as is possible when talking about engagement to my soulmate) and more professional. I also used more professional language, probably trying to impress my would-be boss with all the skills I acquired from my professional writing class! I still managed to end on a romantic note, couldn’t help myself there!

All-in-all it was a neat way to see how I would have explained that event to different people, especially in how it affected my writing style. I ended up sharing it with Courtney, she seemed to enjoy it, and it made me glad that I was given the opportunity to brag about my beautiful fiancé in class! So, if you are looking for a fun way to write about a positive event, even romantic one, it’s almost like surprising yourself in seeing how you communicate with different people. I love nothing more than showing off my Courtney in any medium, she’s just too perfect to keep all to myself!

Not Quite Productive Citizens

I had the distinct thought today that Courtney and I really need to get married so we can contribute to society and leave our all consuming bubble of love and longing. It is so hard to be away from her when I just love her more and more every day! I have some advice to any who are considering long distance engagements, just elope, it will be less difficult!

Probably what stemmed this intense sense of longing as I woke up this morning was having another “man night” with a couple of friends, which cut my nightly chat with my sweetheart short. Instead, we talked about trucks, engine sizes, gas prices, lift kits and mudding tires, and played some shoot ’em up bang bang video games, all very manly you see. I really can’t ever turn down a good guys night in, but nothing compares to being with my Courtney!

Yesterday just seemed to be pretty hectic between work, school, and other responsibilities, which really I can’t complain about, being busy is good for a love sick Tanner! However, I’m so love sick that all throughout those activities there’s this pervasive thought that doesn’t leave me, I love and miss Courtney. Contrast that feeling to how much I felt we both accomplished when she was actually here in person this past week, I know for a fact that we are both much more productive when we are together!

To conclude my thoughts, I have a proposal for the universe. Time can speed up to the part where I get to be with my sweetheart, even just to when she is up here and we can do all the last minute wedding planning stuff. There’s something about being in the same country as her that just sets my heart at ease, knowing that I can get to her whenever she needs me, and whenever I need her. Once time accommodates the desires of our hearts though, it can slow right down and take all the time it needs.

Suits and Such

So my sweet Courtney had to leave me again, back to go finish off the last stint of her practicum for teaching and receive her degree. I have to say, this week and a bit worth of a visit was great! Probably a good sign when we just love spending time with each other, even if it seems like we can’t be pried apart for much more than sleep and bathroom breaks. We got a few more wedding planning things done, so an update is in order.

We further discussed some colour schemes as far as my suit and the get-ups of the groomsmen.  This required some sneaky research to be done in stores that have suits. Usually I’m scared of salespeople…well actually that didn’t change after this outing, as we had to go into a little suit shop with no where to hide. When going through a larger department store with no one lurking there that wants to “help”, it’s easier to blend in and avoid discovery. They just stress me out! I don’t know what it is exactly, but I just don’t like saying no to people, and I don’t like saying yes when I have no intention of letting them convince me to buy something, so it just feels all wrong! It’s a good thing Courtney knows how to shop!

We were going to go with a grey of some kind to match the wedding colours, but on comparing some samples our wonderful seamstress provided(my mom!) from the bridesmaid dresses, a brown may actually work better. I’m secretly hoping this is the final decision so I get to go with the suit I already have, but suit shopping(when I actually intend on buying one) is actually probably the only kind of clothes shopping I actually enjoy. If you go to a good store, they make you feel all special, brushing your shoulders and making sure you look good and such. 

Everything seems like it is coming together, and the wedding doesn’t feel like it’s so far away anymore, which I am super grateful for! I have this sneaky feeling that as the time draws closer, the pressure will be on and then we will see how all the pieces come together into the grande finale. The climax of which will be the actual wedding, and I cannot wait to be with my sweetie officially!

She’s here!

Oh how sweet it is to be reunited with my sweetheart!  Thursday had to be one of the longest days of school ever recorded(this counts as being recorded), and the drive to see Courtney at her parents place seemed to drag on.  All the waiting and missing seemed to dash itself away when she came to the front door and rushed past her own father to give me the biggest hug ever.  Thankfully she didn’t totally neglect him, but she sure made it to me faster than those cats from the commercials that jump two stories or through walls to get treats!

I think I was in some kind of “love shock” the first night we got to finally talk and visit in person.  I asked her to pinch me so I could make sure it was real, and that I wasn’t talking to her through a computer screen as the trend of our whole relationship has been.  No sudden pauses, loss of sound, pixelated images, it was wonderful!

Yesterday we got to go and do some cake testing?  I didn’t even know that was a thing, but the lovely lady had little forks out for us and a plate of filling and icing samples that we could chose from.  It was all very nice, and extra tasty!  There’s a whole lot more to wedding cakes than I ever could have guessed, that’s quite a business, and I sure appreciate them more seeing how much work has to go into them.

Now that my sweetheart is finally here I should have more material to talk about in regards to wedding planning, the trick will be pulling myself away from her long enough to write some blog posts about it!